Making a Move: Step-by-Step Guide to Flirting in Public
Flirting in public can be nerve-wracking. You never know if that cute stranger is going to be receptive or dismissive of your advances. But seeing as a recent study showed that 76% of 18-34 years want to meet the love of their life organically, it might be time to take the plunge! But fear not, with these tips and tricks, you'll be flirting like a pro in no time.
Eye contact: The eyes are the windows to the soul, as they say. Catch someone's eye and hold their gaze for a beat or two longer than usual. This is a great place to start and build up from if you’re nervous. Even if you can’t hold your gaze, you can be proud that you made the advance of a glance. You can always give another quick look to show that it wasn’t an accident the first time. You never know, they may hold your gaze or even smile back at you, that's a good sign that they’re interested. It’s also a good way to build confidence to go further.
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Body language: Pay attention to your body language and theirs. Are they facing towards you? Leaning in? Playing with their hair? These are all signs that they might be interested. Similarly, make sure your own body language is open and inviting. Don’t cross your arms or look uncomfortable (even though you might be secretly hysterical). Most of all if you catch their eye, give them a smile! Another whopping 76% say that a smile is the #1 physical trait to make an impactful first impression. Even if it’s a half smile, it’s enough to make someone feel good! Smiles are after infectious after all, and whether they’re romantically interested or not, you’ve probably made their day!
Start Talking: This is the part where you just need to take the bull by the horns and go for it. If you’re waiting for a tube, you can be really subtle by asking them if you’re getting the right one. This could start up a conversation, and if you start laughing together – you could be on track to something (pun-intended). If you’re in the gym, you could ask them for some advice if they look like they know what they’re doing. Or a step further, you could compliment them. Everyone loves a compliment, right? If you see someone wearing something you like or doing something impressive, tell them! Just make sure it's genuine - nobody likes a fake compliment. A good sense of humour can go a long way when it comes to flirting too. Crack a joke or make a witty comment about something happening around you. Just make sure it's appropriate - nobody wants to be hit on with an offensive joke.
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What If's: What if they’re taken? Or they’re not interested? Or I’m humiliated? Or they’re actually boring and don’t make conversation? Or I bump into them again after being rejected? We move. Stop wondering about the what ifs, because ultimately life is a lot more interesting when you overcome your fears and start to embrace the ups and downs. They make for great stories for everyone else too!
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Confidence: Confidence is key when it comes to flirting in public (and pretty much everything else, let's be real). Walk tall, speak clearly, and don't be afraid to put yourself out there. Don’t fiddle with your clothing and keep your head up for a self-assured impression.
Remember, flirting should always be fun and respectful for everyone involved. It’s important to respect boundaries, not get in someone’s face, and back off if they’re not reciprocating. The best way to be is light, breezy and chilled. So even if Sue on the Bakerloo or Tim in the Gym aren’t interested, you’ve gained another life skill in interaction! Or if all goes well, it could be a story for the grandkids.